ARTICLES
BY SHOSHANNA BAT SHACHAR SCHMALZ
Fear vs. Love: The Choice That Shapes Your Reality
Fear and love are two fundamental forces that shape our thoughts, actions, and experiences. While fear contracts, limits, and isolates, love expands, creates, and connects. Fear is often rooted in imagined future scenarios—what could go wrong, what might be lost, or what dangers lurk ahead. It thrives on uncertainty, leading to hesitation, doubt, and paralysis. When we operate from fear, we tend to make choices based on scarcity, self-protection, and control, which ultimately stifle growth and keep us stuck in repetitive cycles. Love, on the other hand, is rooted in the present moment. It is the energy of creation, abundance, and possibility. When we act from love, we embrace opportunities with an open heart, trust in the unfolding of life, and allow expansion to take place. Love fosters connection, innovation, and a thriving existence. The energy behind our actions matters. When we create from a place of love, our endeavors are infused with passion, purpose, and authenticity, leading to fulfillment and abundance. However, when fear drives our decisions, the result is often scarcity, limitation, and stagnation. Choosing love over fear is a daily practice. It requires awareness, trust, and the courage to lean into uncertainty with an open heart. But in doing so, we align ourselves with the energy of growth, creativity, and infinite possibilities.
Understanding the Core Wound of Abandonment
Whenever we feel abandoned by someone, it is actually a reflection of how we are abandoning ourselves. If we were truly anchored within ourselves, we wouldn’t perceive another’s absence as abandonment. Instead, we would stand firm in self-reassurance, knowing that we are whole and complete on our own. The Twin Flame Journey and Spiritual Awakening On the twin flame journey and during a spiritual awakening, all our core wounds are activated. Abandonment is at the very foundation of the illusion of this realm. It is the fundamental wound from which many of our life experiences arise—the perception of separateness from the One Consciousness. This perception of separateness exists within the ego, allowing us to have individual life experiences. As we navigate life, we work through ourselves, our avatars, our archetypes, and the structures of behavior that shape us. Healing ourselves is a core aspect of the spiritual awakening process. The easiest wounds to heal are those closest to our conscious awareness. As we begin peeling back the subconscious layers, we reach the core wounds—deep-seated beliefs and fears that have shaped our behaviors and perspectives. Abandonment is one of the first core wounds we encounter. From the moment we are born, we experience separation from our mother, our life-giver and nourisher. We also experience a sense of separation from the Divine, from the knowledge that we are always supported, and from the understanding that everything is unfolding for our highest good. The Illusion of Abandonment If we perceive someone as abandoning us, it means we have projected onto them the responsibility for fulfilling a need within us. In truth, no one can abandon us unless we have placed our sense of security in their hands. When someone exits our life, it is an opportunity for reflection—what role did they play for us? Where did we place our security in them instead of within ourselves? True security comes from within, not from external sources. Abandonment is merely a perception, a fear that underlies our behaviors and shapes our interactions. If we fear abandonment, we unconsciously seek security outside ourselves. This often leads to codependent relationships, where both individuals rely on each other to fulfill their emotional needs. Such relationships can become a cycle that reinforces weakness rather than fostering growth. Breaking Free from the Cycle When we recognize that our feelings of abandonment are invitations for inner work, we can begin to heal. By examining where we have abandoned ourselves, we can reclaim our personal power. When we stand in our own self-worth and nourish ourselves emotionally, we become self-reliant. This self-reliance does not mean isolation but rather an inner stability that allows for healthy, interdependent relationships. A relationship built on true love and mutual support thrives when both individuals stand in their own power. In contrast, a relationship founded on dependency often creates an imbalance, where one person must maintain the other’s sense of security. When one person grows beyond this dynamic, the relationship often collapses because it was based on need rather than genuine connection. Embracing the Gift of Healing If you are experiencing feelings of abandonment, see it as a gift. It is an opportunity to explore the root of your pain and to strengthen your connection with the Divine. The deepest part of the wound of abandonment sits right at the threshold of your connection to the One Consciousness. As you heal, you will recognize that you are never truly alone—you are always connected to the infinite whole. When we nourish ourselves emotionally, we walk through life with an inner sense of fulfillment. We no longer seek superficial validation or relationships that are not aligned with our highest good. Instead, we attract people and experiences that resonate with our true vibration. By overcoming the fear of abandonment, we free ourselves to love unconditionally, without expectations or dependencies. We stand in our power, knowing that our happiness is not reliant on anyone else. Sending you all so much love and encouragement on your journey of healing and self-discovery!
Finding Your Core Vibration
In today’s fast-paced world, many of us operate under constant pressure, often without realizing it. From an early age, we are conditioned to prioritize productivity, creating a cycle of continuous activity and mental overload. This habitual state of pressure disconnects us from our natural rhythm and inhibits our ability to fully immerse ourselves in the present moment. Finding your core vibration—a state of alignment with your authentic self—requires breaking free from this cycle. The key is to cultivate inner quiet by intentionally calming the mind. Meditation is a powerful tool for achieving this. Starting your day with even a brief meditation practice can ground you and establish a sense of calm that carries through your day. Initially, the mind resists stillness, overwhelmed by thoughts of tasks and responsibilities. This resistance is natural and part of the process. By consistently redirecting your focus to a place of quiet, even for short intervals, you train your mind to let go of external pressures. Over time, this practice becomes more intuitive, allowing you to enter a state of calm more quickly and sustain it longer. Operating from a place of internal quiet significantly enhances both productivity and well-being. Tasks are approached with intention and focus, leading to greater efficiency and higher-quality outcomes. More importantly, this approach allows you to align your actions with your unique pace and natural rhythm, fostering a deeper connection to your core self. The benefits extend beyond task management. By reducing mental pressure, you experience greater clarity, presence, and alignment with your personal goals. This shift not only transforms how you approach your work but also enriches your overall life experience. Incorporating a daily practice of quieting the mind is an investment in both personal and professional growth. Begin with small, manageable steps, and trust that consistent effort will lead to profound results.
Overcoming The Fear of Missing Out: Live in the Present Moment
FOMO—the fear of missing out—is a trap. It pulls you into a cycle of regret and longing, keeping you from fully living the life that’s happening right now. It’s a paradox: while worrying about what you might be missing, you’re actually missing the moment in front of you. But here’s the truth: life is always happening exactly where you are at any given moment. You are the center of your life, the epicenter of your experiences, and everything is unfolding around you and in interaction with you in the current moment. FOMO is an illusion. When you make a decision—whether it’s to go somewhere or stay in—it’s the right decision for that moment. The key is to surrender to that choice and immerse yourself in it. This is where you are; this is what you’re doing. There’s no reason to look back or second-guess, because the other options weren’t meant to be. If they were, you would have chosen them. That other option is off the table. You are, where you are. And you are here for reasons. Dedicate your attention to the task at hand. Choose to learn from the situation so that you may choose wisely in the future. Life is full of infinite possibilities, but you can only live one moment at a time. If you’re always thinking about the grass being greener somewhere else, you’re not present in your own life. You’re missing the magic of now. And when you’re not present, you’re not truly living life and your life will cease to expand. Understand that you create excitement in your life. You are worthy. The way out of FOMO is simple but powerful: Be Present: Whatever you’re doing, commit to it. Decide that this moment is enough, and let yourself fully experience it. Surrender to Your Choices: Trust that the decisions you make are the right ones. There’s no point in regret—life is happening here, not in the “what ifs.” Shift Your Perspective: Happiness isn’t about where you are or what you’re doing; it’s a state of being. You can choose to find joy in this moment, no matter what’s happening. You are the only one who feels your emotion therefore it is yours. You get to choose. The fear of missing out is just that—fear. It’s the mind pulling you away from the present, making you believe you’re incomplete. It is looking backwards and second guessing the choices that you made. It is the mistrust of self and thinking that my happiness is outside of me and I may miss it if I make a perceived mistake. But the truth is, everything is exactly as it should be and you are exactly where you are. Every decision you make has a reason behind it, even if you don’t see it right away. When you let go of FOMO and focus on where you are right now, you’ll find that you’re never really missing out. Life is always happening around you, and every moment is an opportunity to grow, learn, and be. So take a deep breath, surrender to the now, and remember: this is your life, and it’s happening right here, right now.
Stepping Out of Your Comfort Zone: The Key to True Change
Change is one of the most challenging yet rewarding aspects of life. If you truly want to transform your life, you must be willing to step out of your comfort zone. Your mind is wired for safety and prefers familiarity, leading you to follow the same thought patterns and behaviors day after day. However, this cycle only reinforces the same actions, keeping your life unchanged. To break free and create true change, you must intentionally disrupt your thought patterns. One of the simplest ways to do this is by deliberately introducing new experiences into your life—doing things differently than you normally would. This shift forces you out of your comfort zone, where growth begins. The Discomfort of Change Stepping out of your comfort zone will initially make you uncomfortable—this is inevitable. The unknown brings fear because it lacks the security of what you already know. Even when you deeply desire change, fear can hold you back with thoughts like What if it doesn’t work out? or What if I fail? These uncertainties can easily pull you back into familiar territory. Awareness is key. Observe your actions and recognize what beliefs they stem from. Once you identify these patterns, you can consciously choose to change them. Your thoughts create your actions, but your actions can also shape your thoughts. By taking new actions, you can form empowering beliefs that align with the life you want to create. The Power of Curiosity Fear may lie in the unknown, but so does curiosity. Instead of allowing fear to dominate, cultivate a deep sense of curiosity about what lies beyond your comfort zone. Ask yourself: What else is possible? What more can I achieve? How can I push my boundaries today? Curiosity turns the unknown from something scary into something exciting. When you approach life with a sense of wonder, you open doors to opportunities you never imagined. Facing Your Fears Head-On If you want true change, you must face your fears directly. The only way to move forward is to step into discomfort and embrace the unknown. Start by purposefully introducing small changes into your daily routine. Over time, these changes become habits, and what was once uncomfortable becomes your new normal. Staying in a life you don’t want is far scarier than making the leap into a new one. Fear of change is natural, but remaining stagnant is a far greater risk. By taking intentional steps toward your dreams, you create momentum. Small shifts lead to larger transformations, and before you know it, your entire life has changed. Take the First Step Ask yourself: What do I truly want to accomplish? Imagine how you want to be remembered at the end of your life. What impact do you want to make? Once you have clarity, start moving toward that vision—one step at a time. Change is inevitable when you take action. The more you step into the unknown, the more doors will open. What once seemed impossible will become part of your reality. Live Boldly, Live Fully Dare to be bold. Life is fleeting, and every moment is an opportunity. A hundred years from now, none of the fears holding you back today will matter. What matters is how fully you embraced life, how much joy you found in the journey, and how fearlessly you pursued your dreams. Go out and live. Have fun. Take risks. This is your one life—make the most of it.
You Are the Creator of Your Reality
You are an ultimate, infinite being with unlimited possibilities available to you in every moment. Every version of you coexists across different timelines, and you have the power to shift between them at will. The person you dream of becoming is already within reach—because whatever you believe to be true for you becomes your reality. Your life is a series of choices. In every moment, you decide who you are, and the world reflects that truth back to you. You are a multidimensional being, and all options are open to you. Whether you realize it or not, you are constantly shaping your reality through your thoughts, beliefs, and actions. The Power of Choice Every single version of you exists as a possibility, waiting for you to step into it. Your perception of what is possible determines the course of your life. If you believe something is attainable, then it is. If you believe in limitations, then they become your barriers. Your beliefs are the framework that constructs your reality. True transformation happens when you move in the direction of what you desire. You can shift timelines at any moment by choosing different thoughts, actions, and perspectives. You are not bound by the past or by any single version of yourself—you can recreate yourself at any time. Multiple Lifetimes in One Life You are not limited to a single path. You can live multiple lifetimes within one lifetime, continuously reinventing yourself as you evolve. Every moment presents an opportunity to redefine who you are. You decide how the world sees you. You craft your own narrative. Your life is shaped by the lens through which you choose to view it. When you shift your perspective, you shift your reality. If you desire change, have the courage to step into a new version of yourself. Embrace Your Infinite Nature True change requires courage. It requires stepping beyond old identities and embracing the unknown. But within the unknown lies your greatest potential. When you recognize that all possibilities are available to you, you free yourself from limitations. You are the creator of your reality. You tell the world who you are, and the world believes you. Choose boldly, live expansively, and embrace the infinite possibilities that are yours to claim.
Emotional Alchemy and the Twin Flame Journey: A Deep Dive
The concept of emotional alchemy within the twin flame journey is a profound exploration of personal transformation and the deep, often painful process of self-discovery. This essay delves into the essence of this journey, focusing on the themes of surrender, unconditional love, and inner union, and how they contribute to the evolution and healing of both twin flames. The Depths of Pain and Surrender The twin flame journey is often described as one of emotional alchemy, a process where one is repeatedly brought to their knees through intense experiences of pain, struggle, and self-awareness. This emotional depth stretches beyond the surface, pulling individuals to their very limits over and over again. At its core, the journey seeks to uncover hidden layers of the self—those parts we didn’t even know existed. The idea that we are "stretched to our very limits" highlights how this journey pushes individuals beyond their comfort zones. It requires acceptance and surrender of the pain rather than resistance. When we resist what is happening—when we fight against the emotions—it prolongs the pain. However, through surrender, we allow the emotions to flow freely, thus dissipating the intensity. Surrendering into the pain is not an easy task. It means embracing all aspects of the journey, the good, the bad, and the ugly, fully and without fear. The Journey of Self-Acceptance and Inner Union At each step of the journey, we are faced with a pivotal realization: no matter how far we have traveled, we are always being pushed further into our limits. The idea that even at the beginning of the journey, we are at our peak, represents the cyclical nature of twin flame growth—each phase brings its own depth and challenge. The inner work required involves accepting what is, regardless of how difficult it may be. The twin flame journey is not about finding an external solution or union, but achieving inner unity and unconditional love within oneself first. This requires a deep reckoning with our inner demons—those fears, insecurities, and unresolved wounds that arise and need to be addressed. As divine feminine or masculine energies, each twin must balance and integrate these aspects within themselves. The journey is not solely about love for the other, but also about profound self-love—an acceptance that goes beyond surface desires and attachments. Unconditional love means allowing the other to fulfill their path without clinging or controlling them. It’s a profound form of liberation where both twins work in harmony, not against each other. Embracing the Higher Self and Energetic Healing The journey, as described, involves an energetic interplay where healing one’s self automatically impacts the other. The energetic field between twin flames means that the work done within oneself ripples into the other, healing and shifting their experience as well. This paradox is crucial: by letting go of the other, they are energetically freed to rise on their own path, and in doing so, both twins experience greater wholeness. Through the process of surrender and healing, the ego—rooted in feelings of lack—dissolves. There is no more chasing or yearning from a place of deficiency. Instead, there is empowerment, where individuals understand their divine essence as souls of pure love and oneness. The paradox of inner stillness reflects the culmination of this journey. When both twins reach a place of internal balance, they no longer feel compelled to chase, push, or cling to each other. Instead, they embody unconditional love, allowing both to remain energetically connected regardless of physical proximity. This connection remains steadfast, offering a sense of security and unity beyond the physical realm. The Role of Vibrational Love and Mirroring As emotional beings, twin flames mirror back to each other what lies within. Thus, when negative emotions arise—such as feelings of hurt, anger, or resentment—they reflect deeper wounds within the self. The key to healing lies in sending love rather than judgment or blame. This vibrational shift allows both twins to heal simultaneously, creating a symbiotic, ongoing process of growth and transformation. In conclusion, the twin flame journey is a profound alchemical process—a journey toward self-realization and unconditional love. It is not one of superficial fulfillment, but of deep surrender, inner transformation, and unity that transcends the boundaries of physical existence. Through this journey, twin flames evolve individually and collectively, embodying their highest, most authentic selves.